On Finding Your Way

I have been a seeker and I still am, but I stopped asking the books and the stars. I started listening to the teaching of my soul.
— Rumi

I've always loved this quote and the further into my twenties I get, the more it resonates, so I thought I would share it for my Thursday thought.

In the beginning of our lives everything is pretty mapped out - we go through elementary school, middle school, high school - but where we go after that is up to us. Maybe you immediately started working, or went to college, or traveled. Either way, at some point, we all reach that moment where we stop and think, "What the hell am I doing? Where am I going? What do I want?"

Your twenties can be super confusing. There have been moments where I felt like I had no idea what the hell I was doing - where I was generally happy, but didn't feel full. I wanted more, and I was frustrated because I didn't know how to get it. I used to wish there was a book that told me what I was supposed to do - a manual for living if you will. But the more I grew, the more I realized we already have the answers - we just need to listen to them. 

Whether you don't know what your destination is yet, or you've always known the destination, but not how to get there - it can be difficult to listen and trust yourself. So, to help us find our way, I put together a list of four tips on how to turn inward, and listen:

1. Pay Attention to What you Love

Baking, cooking, dancing, singing, painting, running, writing. Whatever it is you love, pay attention to it. The things we love aren't random, they're who we are, and can point us in the direction of where we should go.

2. Understand your Jealousy

Jealousy is an ugly thing, but if we use it as a tool, it can actually help us find our way. When you feel jealous of someone, it's usually because they have something you desire. Identify what that thing is, and start doing it. 

3. Listen to Your Inner Voice

Call it what you want - your instinct, your gut - it's the part inside of you that always knows the way. The voice that says "sign up for that dance class" or "I need a new job" or "I need to learn to meditate". That voice will guide you if you let it. Listen.

4. Trust Yourself

This one is always easier said than done, but the more you trust your instinct and prove yourself right, the easier it will be to believe you already know the answers.

The unpredictable is what makes life exciting. Discovering who you are, your purpose, your lover, your career - is what makes life worth it. What's left to do if everything is in order? There's beauty in the mess. Throw away the map. Burn the book. Listen to yourself. Let your soul lead you where you need to go. Trust you already know the way. Being lost is an adventure. 

Enjoy the trail.



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